Porn is good for you, watch more porn, piss off more conservatives

Staring at breasts for 30 minutes a day

goes a long way

to pissing off a conservative

In George Orwell's Novel, 1984, sexuality is repressed on a huge level, and the buildup of unused energy is directed towards supporting the part. The Republican party is doing something very similar.

With all this, single issue voting, not to mention all the obsession with the recently defeated, Blunt Amendment, about how women are having rampant sex, and it's up to us to stop them.

There are even some conservatives who oppose finding cures to STD's simply because they believe that with STD's mitigated, sexual promiscuity will spread (and that's a bad thing?).

The sooner we can accept not just sex, not just the fact that people have sex, but the fact the some people like blowjobs, other like to be eaten out, while still others prefer a simulated penis between their legs, and still others enjoy lactating and breastfeeding their lovers...then the sooner we can move on with our society in an open and healthy way.

Maybe if people spent more time having sex they'd spend less time worrying about whether or not Bob and Joe are having sex.

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It’s been shown that reasonable porn consumption doesn’t make users more aggressive, promote sexism or harm relationships. Porn exposure makes some people less likely to commit sexual crimes.
Porn is often accused of inciting sexual aggression. But not only do rape statistics suggest otherwise, some experts believe the consumption of porn may actually reduce the desire to rape by offering a safe, private outlet for the sexual deviant in all of us.
Rates of rapes and sexual assault in the U.S. are at their lowest levels since the 1960s. The same goes for other countries: as access to pornography grew in once restrictive Japan, China and Denmark in the past 40 years, rape statistics plummeted.
In the US, states with the least Internet access between 1980 and 2000 experienced a 53 percent increase in rape incidence. But states with the most access experienced a 27 percent drop in the number of reported rapes.
What if it turns out that ­pornography use actually reduces the desire to rape? It is a controversial idea, but some studies support it. Work in the 1960s and 1970s reported that sexual criminals tend to be exposed to pornographic materials at a later age than noncriminals.
Patients requesting treatment in clinics for sex offenders commonly say that pornography helps them keep their abnormal sexuality within the confines of their imagination.
Pornography seems to be protective, perhaps because exposure correlates with lower levels of sexual repression, a potential rape risk factor.

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Barbara Nitke was the still photographer on 72 hardcore movies made in New York from 1982 to the present.
“There’s another facet to our sexuality – sex that has an edge of anger to it, sex that is unconnected, sex that says something other than ‘I love you’. I think I am living out that part of my sexuality second hand when I shoot.”
“X-rated movies offer that same release to our culture. The word that comes to my mind in describing sexuality in this country is ‘repression’. I like that X-rated movies take a stand against repression, but at the same time, they play to it.”
“Have you seen many women come on camera?”
“When a woman actually comes during the shooting, it is a moment of triumph on the set, because she has triumphed over all of the obstacles, and there are a lot of them.
“Usually it happens not because of her partner, but because the woman has decided she is going to enjoy this.
“I remember one scene when the director, the late Chris Covino, yelled ‘Cut,’ and Long Jean Silver kept the scene going until she came. It was wonderful. A great moment.”
Near the end of our interview, Barbara says, “The thing I always wonder is what would the X-rated business be like in a society that had a very high regard for sex and for sexual people?”
“People would see your photos as holy pictures.”
“Yes. Wouldn’t that be great.”

Guide for Couples' Lactation

Roman Charity
1627-28
Oil on canvas, 96 x 73 cm
Musée du Louvre, Paris

 Realistic guide to couples' lactation

By Mayfieldflower RN

At any given time, I correspond with a half-dozen or so couples who are attempting to induce lactation, most of whom have no interest in a true adult nursing relationship. Instead they arrive at my blog having searched for information in the context of a desire to breastfeed a soon-to-be adopted child. Regardless of intent, the journey to lactation outside of pregnancy is a difficult one, and one that past conversations and experience tell me fewer than half will complete. The successful ones are most often those whose partners fully and joyfully participate.

The reasons the majority of couples discontinue an attempt to induce lactation don't vary that much. Most common is her complaint of sore nipples or extreme breast tenderness, followed by the sheer magnitude of the time commitment for either or both partners. One couple told me that the process of induction "seemed too weird" after they tried it for a day, and another said it made them feel "not as sexy" together (I'll never understand that one). One tearful and very disappointed woman said she simply couldn't tolerate the hormone changes her body began to undergo, and stopped despite her partner's reassurance and encouragement to continue.

As I reflect upon all of this, I realize that there is really no "best practices" guide available to couples who wish to induce lactation together. There is varied information regarding the effects of specific herbs or ways to obtain off-label medications, and random instructions as to a proper latch along with recommendations for breast pumps and marginal support groups, but no real-world, what-to-expect type of information. Thus my contribution to the ANR community today is to post a set of truths about induced lactation which reasonably begin to prepare a couple for the journey.

Note that none of my offerings will apply to all couples, all of the time, nor should they, as every couple and every circumstance is different. My words are, however, an honest reflection of the most common struggles and obstacles encountered in the journey to induce lactation, posted by an RN and certified lactation consultant who is utterly dedicated to the cause.

First, time is imperative. A couple should set aside between six and eight weeks to have the best chance of bringing in her milk. While some rare women have accomplished full lactation in four weeks, others need ten, thus six to eight is the most reasonable expectation.

Most protocols I've seen for inducing lactation suggest that a partner should nurse with a full latch for fifteen to twenty minutes per breast every three hours. It's my experience that this is too much in the beginning and doesn't adequately prepare her nipples for nursing, thus extreme breast tenderness results. Instead, for the first two weeks, nursing sessions should be spaced longer apart in hours to give her nipples time in between to rest, but they should likewise be longer in minutes per session. The stimulation necessary to initiate the first hormone spikes of estrogen, progesterone and prolactin is best balanced with the least nipple soreness with a commitment of thirty gentle minutes per breast, every four to six hours. After the initial two weeks, the estrogen/progesterone spike must be augmented by a steadier release of prolactin, which occurs in response to regular, prolonged nipple stimulation, and it is then that a regimen of fifteen to twenty vigorous minutes per breast every three to four hours best accomplishes this goal. Note that sometimes it is necessary for this protocol to continue for a long as six weeks, every day, around the clock, even if her body seems not to respond at first, and it is during this time that the couples I have worked with are the most easily discouraged.

The next factor in the successful induction of lactation is her body's release of oxytocin. Oxytocin is called many things...the love hormone, the cuddle hormone, the orgasm hormone, the childbirth hormone...and it is all of those things. It's also, however, a shy, tricky, demanding little beast which is quite easily affected by circumstance. If she's stressed, or fearful, or insecure, even at the most subtle of levels, oxytocin production will be inhibited and lactation will likely not occur, or occur with great difficulty.

In the real word, this means that her partner must make every effort to provide a secure and nurturing space within which the process of inducing lactation begins. Rather than one big, certain gesture, however, this is better received as a series of small efforts, tender reassurances and constant encouragement. Most women (myself included) feel very touchy and cuddly when the oxytocin/prolactin cocktail begins to surge; what isn't obvious, however, is that nature designs this reaction specifically to enhance oxytocin release. Skin to skin contact when not actively nursing, something as simple as stroking her chest and upper arms and neck and face when lying together in bed or even when watching television, can dramatically raise oxytocin levels.

It's also true that the body's major stress hormones, including cortisol, inhibit oxytocin release, thus it's important that her partner makes every attempt to shelter her from anger or even difficult conversations during these weeks, bringing her down gently when frustrations arise. With my patients giving birth, I often say that the quickest route to a Caesarean section is for the people surrounding the laboring mother to grow stressed and impatient, and I've been known to toss out of the room more than one person who failed to contribute to the gentle, nurturing, supportive cocoon I create there. It's much the same scenario when a couple attempts to induce lactation together.

It's worth a note here that the necessity for affection, touch, reassurance and nurturing to boost the release of oxytocin is also the reason that I don't recommend a couple use a breast pump more than once per day if they're attempting to induce. Sure, the mechanics are there, and the prolactin release from nipple stimulation will occur, even marginally, but without the corresponding oxytocin release triggered by her partner's affection, cuddling and touch, milk production and eventual milk let-down is difficult. Many people don't understand this and feel that the insert-part-A-into-slot-B technical approach of nipple stimulation, whether from a breast pump or by a partner, should be enough. The truth is, it usually isn't, and this remnant of evolution is simply the way Mother Nature designed women. When an infant is put to the breast, mother intuitively snuggles the infant close, creating skin-to-skin contact, and the baby reflexively reaches out to clasp the breast in his little hands, creating an oxytocin surge and helping to initiate milk let-down. Touch from a partner works the same way; a breast pump does not.

There are other variables which can significantly impact an attempt to induce lactation, including menopause, the use of oral contraceptives and some anti-depressants, and certain medical conditions such as polycystic ovarian syndrome, but because these topics are so vast, I have chosen not to address the specifics here. If any of you have a relevant question, I'd be glad to answer it by e-mail.

In my own experience, and in many of the couples I've worked with, the trust and intimacy which developed as they began the journey of sharing her breasts had no equal; time, nurturing, affection, communication and gentle support are the mileposts along the way.

A Private Unofficial, "study" of ANR

Understanding ANR

by Mayfieldflowerrn

This was a very difficult post for me to write, not because I have difficulty speaking of these parallel desires which I've come to recognize over months of discussion, but because I wanted very much to get the implications right, to come to all of you with good information, well-read and fully aware of the dynamics which combine to create the desire for ANR as we know it. I hope, in this humble attempt, that I've allowed the more hidden, secretive facets of ANR to be brought more completely into the open, and perhaps initiated a discussion or two which will allow us all to become more authentic, true to ourselves and to these unique, beautiful, soul-filling desires which combine to create a very precious and sacred intimacy.

(First, a disclaimer. In my writing here, unless specified otherwise, all references to an adult nursing relationship are intended to include only those monogamous, heterosexual, intimate relationships between two adults which are centered upon a man regularly suckling his woman partner, either in an extended dry-nursing scenario or by fully sharing her milk. While I realize there are other types of adult nursing relationships, I've never discussed them at length nor been drawn to them personally, thus I cannot speak with relevance as to the ways intimacy may or may not be expressed between those partners.)

As the months have passed since I created this blog dedicated to ANR, I've been intrigued by the many, many correspondences and discussions which have begun here, both with men and with women, about the reasons and ways we are drawn to this lifestyle, and how the desire first manifested itself within us. Some people are able to name the specific ways in which ANR draws them, while others are not, but regardless of that, I have found there to be a number of separate and very definite characteristics of nursing couples which seem to universally coexist alongside their need to share a breast-centric relationship.

I sometimes refer to my own longing to share my breasts as exactly that, a longing, a desire. The truth, however, is that it's not so much a simple desire as it is an enduring physical need for me, a need nearly as essential to my being as is breathing or nourishment. To take away my ability to draw my man close to my breasts and nurse him there would be akin to stripping away the very essence of my femininity, and I would die slowly inside, no longer feeling that lovemaking or intimacy held any authenticity for me.

During my marriage, my ex-husband refused to share my breasts. He likewise was incapable of desiring me as a woman after I became pregnant with our son and, when I left, I vowed that I would never again settle for less than a loving, complete relationship which wholly fulfilled me, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically, and wherein the commitment we both made to consecrate the act of nursing together served to anchor and define our lovemaking. Yes, there are many other ways to share intimacy, and I embrace nearly all of them, but the truth remains that the essence of my sexuality, and certainly the origins of intimacy, both foreplay and lovemaking, all begin and end at my breasts.

So what are these parallel desires which, from my conversations, seem to universally exist to one degree or another within the majority of individuals who innately are drawn to share an adult nursing relationship?

I was not at all surprised to discover that the most common theme woven into their desire is a strong, perhaps undeniable, attraction to pregnancy. For her, there may have been an incredibly sexual and sensual undercurrent to pregnancy, and she perhaps discovered newfound joy and satisfaction in her body during those months. Desire was heightened, especially in the second and third trimesters, and she reached orgasm more easily and more frequently. As for him, he may have always recognized in himself an innate gravitation to the pregnant female form, and in his past may even have collected pregnancy erotica in various forms, be that literature or photographs or even mainstream pornography. Now, in a relationship with the flesh and blood woman who carries his child, there exists for him an almost primal desire to explore her pregnant body, a seeming obsession with her changing, growing curves and ripe, full breasts and the round sphere of her belly. Watching her move and seeing her pregnant silhouette leaves him breathless, and longing, yet he soon discovers there to be an equal new tenderness in his desire and an instinctive need to protect both her and the child within.

In my work, I notice a calm centeredness about these couples, for not only do they experience pregnancy together as a bonding, intimate, freely sexual time of exploration, but the intimacy seems to extend into the weeks after their child is born, where it lingers and flourishes. He is tenderly attentive, willing not only to spend time at her breast helping to bring in her milk or relieve any early experiences of engorgement, but also to hold her close and cherish her while she quietly breastfeeds their child. From this most pure act of loving, ANR evolves spontaneously, and this foundation, the innate attraction to pregnancy, has universally been present in the large majority of my conversations about ANR, as well.

The next two themes, as difficult as they may be to approach, seem also to be heavily represented in discussions about ANR. I've thought about the why of this at length, and ultimately I feel that the anonymity offered in this space has allowed people to open up to me in conversation where otherwise they may have not, to confess secrets and attractions and desires without the risk of personal rejection or judgment.

First, among men who are drawn to nursing relationships, there seems to be a correlation, not as heavily represented as the attraction to pregnancy yet a majority just the same, between the desire to engage in the act of nursing with a lover and anal sexual intimacy in some form or another. No, I don't mean heavy bondage or kink or some fringe means of sadomasochistic experimentation. I refer instead to a healthy, nurturing sexuality between lovers, intimacy which mirrors a nursing relationship in the elements of trust and vulnerability.

For one man, it was an inexplicable desire to be spanked, to be turned over his lover's knee and paddled, then drawn tenderly to her breast and comforted afterward. For others, the attraction is in actual penetration, of him by her, in a way which allows him to explore his vulnerable side, to experience the sensation of being filled and open and to submit to her direction, her sexual whims as it were, and to relinquish control. Whereas in mainstream relationships, the risk of confessing to this desire for anal intimacy would perhaps be received with scorn and ultimately might provoke a discussion which questioned the very core of a man's inherent sexuality, in the ANR world it belongs more in an organic place of tenderness, of trust and vulnerability, not unlike his admitting that first longing to be gently nursed and comforted at her breast.

So, over time, as more and more of my discussions included hints of desire for this type of anal intimacy, and it became evident that the same type of male personality who longed for ANR also appeared to hold an unspoken desire to explore anal sexual stimulation for himself in one form or another, I became curious about the basis of it and began wandering, looking first to my own textbooks in lactation and psychology, and finally perusing the broad world of cyberspace. After hours of reading, I ultimately focused on Freud, and his psychosocial stages of child development.

From birth to about eighteen months of age, infants exist in Freud's "oral" stage, where suckling and oral stimulation function as the primary pleasure mechanism. This is followed for another eighteen to twenty-four months by Freud's "anal" stage, where the young child first becomes aware of his genitals, and then toilet training is stressed heavily, often by the mother who loves and nurtures the child and to whom he is emotionally bonded. One cannot help but wonder if those men who are drawn to ANR and to parallel anal intimacy experienced a loss of some sort during these crucial overlapping developmental stages, perhaps an event as simple as forced weaning or a change in the child's primary caregiver. From this loss, his longing to return to a safe place became magnified, and the missing of the oral comforts which he had known since birth and the desire to return to the warmth of the breast and to be suckled somehow triggered an equal need to test the boundaries of Freud's anal stage. In this way, the desire for anal intimacy parallel to an adult nursing relationship is not so much regressive, but rather a need to return to that original safe maternal home and be cared for there, to be vulnerable and exposed but likewise reassured, and thus made safe.

The second difficult theme centers solely upon terminology in the ANR world, and, truth be told, this has been the most difficult of the parallel desires to write about. For a young child, the terms "Mama" and "Daddy" come to represent very specific securities. Mama is the nurturer, the comforter, the holder of all things soft and reassuring and safe. Daddy is the protector and sometimes the punisher, an external and distant yet approving (or disapproving) presence. In child psychology, it is well-documented that a child's first sexual response centers upon these familiar figures, and even in society at large we recognize that, on a subconscious level, men commit to wives who remind them of their mothers, and women marry men like their fathers. The difference in an ANR relationship is that these roles carry forward well into adult sexuality, where men ache to be drawn to "Mama's" breast and comforted and where women embrace that nurturing role, and where "Daddy," the adult man to whom they now are married and in whom they likely witness many, many traits inherent to their own fathers, protects them and keeps them safe, thus it is he they wish to please.

I have yet to have a discussion in the ANR world in which this specific topic wasn't preceded by a disclaimer, that he doesn't really desire his mother, that she never would imagine having sex with her father. In my very open mind, the disclaimer is unnecessary, for it is clear to me that it's the trait wherein the attraction lies and not the individual. For him, the longing for a nursing relationship centers upon the breasts, upon receiving from his wife the love and nurturing and comfort that men cannot ask for outright in our macho-centric society, and to receive that love in a place where he is momentarily able to set aside society's masculine conditions of control and power, dominance and responsibility. For her, psychology suggests that the desire is a bit deeper, that as a small child she couldn't understand why Daddy hugged and kissed Mama with a different, more expressive intimacy than he hugged and kissed her. She longed for that same special, unique love, "Daddy's" love, yet in a very innocent way, the only way her still-forming sexual psyche could receive it. Yes, issues like incest, rape or violence change the dynamic of this, but those don't belong in this discussion, for the desire for nurturing and safety within a nursing relationship originates in a much purer, organic, holistic place, a place of comfort and warmth and love and being protected, and it follows that adults in a nursing relationship could easily intertwine these maternal and paternal roles into their shared sexual intimacy.

This was a very difficult post for me to write, not because I have difficulty speaking of these parallel desires which I've come to recognize over months of discussion, but because I wanted very much to get the implications right, to come to all of you with good information, well-read and fully aware of the dynamics which combine to create the desire for ANR as we know it. I hope, in this humble attempt, that I've allowed the more hidden, secretive facets of ANR to be brought more completely into the open, and perhaps initiated a discussion or two which will allow us all to become more authentic, true to ourselves and to these unique, beautiful, soul-filling desires which combine to create a very precious and sacred intimacy.

ANR What? Huh?

Today's Sexual Eye-Opener

Wikipedia

Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR)

The suckling of milk from a female's breast on a regular basis from one or more partner(s). Successful ANRs depend on a stable and long-term relationship, as, otherwise it is very difficult to maintain a steady milk flow. Couples may begin an ANR by transferring regular suckling from a child to a sexual partner (eg. husband). Such a relationship may form as an expression of close intimacy and mutual tenderness and may even exist without sex.^[1] Breastfeeding can have a strong stabilizing effect on the partnership.^[1][10] The breastfeeding woman may experience orgasms or a pleasurable let-down reflex.

ANRs has also been employed in cases where a mother may desire to breastfeed her child, but has to find an alternative to inducing lactation.^[11] She may have difficulty beginning lactation, so supplements the infants's suckling with that of a partner. Or there are cases where breastfeeding was interrupted for an extended period of time as a result of infant prematurity, infant absence, or mother's illness (taking prescription medication).^[12] In such cases, adult nursing has often caused lactation to continue until it was possible for the child to resume breast feeding. Others may want to nurse an adopted child, so uses an ANR to stimulate breastmilk production before the adoption occurs. Though such scenarios do not have erotic motivations, erotic expression may be an additional aspect of the relationship.

Since the European Middle Ages, a multitude of subliminally erotic visionary experiences of saints have been passed on in which breastfeeding plays a major role. One prominent example is the Lactatio of Saint Bernard of Clairvaux.^[16] Generally speaking, this was a rather strong taboo, and it can be concluded that an adult man suckling for milk is in contradiction to well-established images of masculinity^{[citation needed]}.


There exists a very old story mostly called "Roman Charity" (or Caritas romana).^[17] This story is most known from old paintings showing a young woman suckling an old man who is imprisoned.
The story comes from the Roman writer Valerius Maximus in the year 14 AD - 37 AD. In about AD 1362 the story was retold by the famous writer Giovanni Boccaccio.^[18] After Boccaccio, hundreds or possibly thousands of paintings were created, which tell the story.
Primarily, the story tells of a conflict. An existing taboo (implied incest and adult breastfeeding of a woman's milk) or saving a life by breaking the taboo. In this aspect there is no erotic focus to the story.
Most interesting in context of erotic lactation is not the fact of nourishing a man from a woman's breast. More interesting is the following affair: Valerius Maximus tells two stories, not one only. There is first a long elaborated story with a woman breastfeeding her mother, which is followed by a very short story with a woman breastfeeding her father. The second father-daughter story in fact consists of one sentence only. Fifteen hundred years later Boccaccio retells the (first) mother-daughter story only and does not mention the father-daughter story. Nevertheless nearly all "caritas romana" oil paintings and drawings show the father-daughter story only. This fact changes the supposedly original background into an erotic direction and we can very clearly see the (erotic) fascination of the adult suckling situation for the artists, who created all the paintings.

Erotic lactation refers to an adult's sexual arousal from breastfeeding. Depending on the context, the terms adult suckling, adult nursing, and adult breastfeeding can refer to the practice. Practitioners sometimes refer to themselves as being in an adult nursing relationship (ANR).^[1] Two persons in an exclusive relationship can be called a nursing couple, though this term is also sometimes used for a mother and her child.
"Milk fetishism" and "lactophilia" are medical, diagnostic terms for paraphilias and are used for disorders according to the precise criteria of ICD-10 and DSM-IV.^[2]

Because female breasts and nipples are generally regarded as an important part of sexual activity in some cultures, it is not uncommon that couples may proceed from oral stimulation of the nipples to actual breastfeeding.^[6] In lesbian partnerships, mutual breastfeeding has been regarded as a familiar expression of affection and tenderness.^[7]
In its issue of March 13, 2005, the London weekly The Sunday Times gave a report of a scientific survey (composed of 1690 British men) revealing that in 25 to 33% of all couples, the male partner had suckled his wife's breasts. Regularly the men gave a genuine emotional need as their motive.^[8]